Sex As Intended

Sex, unlike the food we eat everyday, is not widely, easily or openly discussed in public or even among close circles. Yet, sex is indeed pervasive among us and much more widely practised than discussed. While sex may be accepted more liberally in some countries; it remains a taboo subject in others, only to be practised but not to be discussed. Even today the very mention of the word 'sex' blushes many and causes discomfort to others. Are we guilty of sex? Do we feel guilty of sex?

In the beginning, sex first started in the Garden of Eden between Adam and Eve. In the same garden the very first sin was also committed. Over time and going fast forward, we are here today because of the very first sex which had taken place and we feel guilty of sex today because of the very first sin which had been committed. And from that garden, as lives multiply, guilt and shame propagate amidst sexual affairs falling short of blessing. This is how we see sex in this world today. And this is where we must also change.

But can we undo the sins we had shouldered to become pure again, even in sex? The answer is no but what couples can do is learn how to love and respect each other, preserve the institution of marriage, be fearful of the sanctity of life, so that they can reap the benefits of marriage that God intended.

Even for those who have lost faith in the institution of marriage and where the abstinence from sex is difficult, the sensible approach is to stay with one regular companion. This path will lead to less complication in relationship, in life, and far lesser feelings of guilt.

Truly, sex was intended to be pure and to be a great joy for men and women in procreation. Free from guilt and sin, sex was intended to be shared lovingly between responsible married couples. When two innocent hearts are blessed with love - where their spirits may be joined together in holy matrimony, so may their bodies be joined together in sex.

You have the best of sex when there is an absence of lust. You have the best of sex when the union takes place not just for the body but also for the spirit. You have the best of sex with sex as intended.

Procrastination

What is this word? Why do we procrastinate so often?

In simple terms, procrastination is the delayment of doing a task till a later time. We delay or postpone and sometimes even totally avoid doing something. Most people would simply cover their guilt by saying they have no time. In our busy and hectic life, especially for working people, this may sound reason enough to get by but repeated acts of this nature may cause unpleasant consequences.

I have had the unpleasant experience of losing a molar tooth to procrastination. From a small cavity, I delayed seeing a dentist. It developed to form bigger cavities and yet I postponed treatment. It gave occasional pain, yet again I endured and procrastinated. It was only after the pain became unbearable that I sought treatment from a dentist. But treatment wasn't necessary any more. After the extraction the molar was lost, thanks to procrastination

Procrastination is a social ill and many do it for various reasons. People having a health- threatening condition may procrastinate getting treatment for fear of going through a surgery. Someone may procrastinate to visit the dentist for fear of a tooth extraction. Housewives may procrastinate doing the laundry and ironing when a good tv program is on. Students may procrastinate to study for exam because it is tough to remember information. We want to have things our way, the easy comfortable way so we resort to procrastination to avoid doing the uncomfortable and to remain in our state of comfort.

In most cases, procrastination isn't healthy and can lead to undesirable consequences like losing a tooth or failing an exam. In serious cases, lives may be lost. In some others, watching an exciting tv show first may only necessitate that you complete your laundry and ironing till past midnight.

Wherever possible, let us use the knowledge of our mind to decide when to conquer the reluctant state of our body to move. Or may we be so guided by the living words:

"If you wait until the wind and the weather are just right, you will never plant anything and never harvest anything" - Ecclesiastes 11.4, The Bible.

Mother's Day

A day to show our appreciation and love for our mothers. Mother's Day is celebrated on different day in different parts of the world. In countries like the United States, Australia, Germany, New Zealand, Switzerland, Singapore, Hong Kong and Malaysia, Mother's Day is celebrated on the second Sunday in May.

For most people the appreciation comes in the form of a physical gift and many would have been wondering what to give to their mothers before the day arrives. Physical or non-physical, Mother's Day gifts may differ greatly from individual to individual ranging from the traditional gifts like chocolates, candies, cakes, finger rings, bracelets, necklace, ear rings and pendants, flowers, plants; to clothings, hand bags, electronic products like mobile phones, computers, music players; to a holiday trip, a dinner, a family outing, and so forth.

Besides asking family members, close friends or even strangers for ideas on the 'perfect gift' (as some may seem struggling to do so), sometimes it's a good idea to simply ask your mother what she likes. Obviously, this takes away the element of surprise in the gift but it is still much better to offer something your mom can appreciate.

If the element of surprise is of utmost importance to you and to your mom, you may want to consider trying this. If you have been close to your mother you would have realised what her wishlist is through your occasional sweet conversations with her. Now, based on that list you proceed with the elimination. Those wishes which are impossible to fulfill like 'world peace' would have to be dropped. Others which are too costly like '10-hectares of rose garden' would again not be possible unless your assets can comfortably accommodate such request. Move on with the elimination and, hopefully, you can succeed in arriving at your 'surprise gift' idea.

I believe simple gestures like a 'kiss', 'I love you, Mom', 'Happy Mother's Day', 'Thank You, Mom' are not worthless gifts at all.

To All Mothers,
Whoever you are,
Whatever you do,
Wherever you may be,
Full or lonely,
Rich or poor,
Have a Blessed, Happy Mother's Day

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